I spent many years either single or in no-good relationships. Today, I am engaged to the love of my life. I don’t think this happened by accident either. Let me share with you what I consider to be the secret of not just finding a partner, but finding a partner that is perfect for you.

When I compare myself today with myself when I was single 5 years ago one thing is clear to me: nothing has changed in what I want from a partner. What I looked for 5 years ago, and what I appreciate in my partner today, are (in no particular order):

• Similar interests
• Beautiful looks
• Great sense of humour

How then did I go from being unlucky in love to finding my ideal partner in life? Well I certainly didn’t settle, nor did I start using some brilliant new pick up line. Rather I did the following: I changed myself, thereby attracting my ideal partner into my life. Another way to put this is that I became the person I would want to be in a relationship with.

The following are 5 ideas for changing yourself in ways that will make you a magnet for potential partners:

1. Get Fit

When you are fit, you feel great. This has a huge effect on your self confidence.

2. Read, read, read

This is the best way to come into contact with new ideas and information. From my experience, people who can discuss ideas and information are interesting.

3. Be outgoing

I would describe myself in the past as painfully shy. These days I am certainly no extrovert, but I have no problems meeting new people and making conversation.

4. Be Different

More and more these days I see people with a ‘herd mentality’. Be bold, think for yourself, be different. After all, in attracting your ideal partner you want to distinguish yourself from the competition, right?

5. Love Yourself

Do you love yourself? I don’t mean this in a vain sense. My point is simply this: so often we ask others to love us, when we don’t love ourselves. Love yourself and others will too.

Tags: Happiness, Relationships //